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Family Portrait January 26, 2010

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Well, it’s been a while since we’ve posted anything about our family.  2009 was quite a year for us; not all positive, but not all negative either.  Needless to say, we are happy to move into 2010, hopeful for what the new decade holds for this Davis family.  I thought I’d at least share a family photo from the grandparents’ house at Christmas.  I’m trying to convert Josiah to be a fan of moose like I am, so I found some CUTE fleece pjs for the holiday cold nights for him. Anyway, this is us.

Happy New Year and New Decade to you and yours!  More updates to come soon.

 

Haiti – a miracle in the midst of horror January 22, 2010

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A husband finds his wife in a fallen building. You probably don’t want to watch this alone. It’s beautiful, but trust me, you will sob.

 

Haiti, Suffering, and God January 15, 2010

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Much has been said and written in the last few days about the devastation in Haiti. My heart has been deeply moved by the horrific pictures and stories coming out. What are we to think about these things?

The best response I have seen is an article which was originally written in response to the tsunami in Thailand several years ago. The entire article in helpful and well-written. Here’s the conclusion at the end, but you really should read the whole thing.

Tsunmi and Theodicy
David B. Hart
First Things, March 2005

I do not believe we Christians are obliged—or even allowed—to look upon the devastation visited upon the coasts of the Indian Ocean and to console ourselves with vacuous cant about the mysterious course taken by God’s goodness in this world, or to assure others that some ultimate meaning or purpose resides in so much misery. Ours is, after all, a religion of salvation; our faith is in a God who has come to rescue His creation from the absurdity of sin and the emptiness of death, and so we are permitted to hate these things with a perfect hatred. For while Christ takes the suffering of his creatures up into his own, it is not because he or they had need of suffering, but because he would not abandon his creatures to the grave. And while we know that the victory over evil and death has been won, we know also that it is a victory yet to come, and that creation therefore, as Paul says, groans in expectation of the glory that will one day be revealed. Until then, the world remains a place of struggle between light and darkness, truth and falsehood, life and death; and, in such a world, our portion is charity.

As for comfort, when we seek it, I can imagine none greater than the happy knowledge that when I see the death of a child I do not see the face of God, but the face of His enemy. It is not a faith that would necessarily satisfy Ivan Karamazov, but neither is it one that his arguments can defeat: for it has set us free from optimism, and taught us hope instead. We can rejoice that we are saved not through the immanent mechanisms of history and nature, but by grace; that God will not unite all of history’s many strands in one great synthesis, but will judge much of history false and damnable; that He will not simply reveal the sublime logic of fallen nature, but will strike off the fetters in which creation languishes; and that, rather than showing us how the tears of a small girl suffering in the dark were necessary for the building of the Kingdom, He will instead raise her up and wipe away all tears from her eyes—and there shall be no more death, nor sorrow, nor crying, nor any more pain, for the former things will have passed away, and He that sits upon the throne will say, “Behold, I make all things new.”

Read the whole thing…

 

Mommy Favorites January 7, 2010

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As we are already approaching 11 months with our first child, I thought I would write a post about my “mommy favorites” — things that I found to be essential in helping us survive the first little one.  [I may add more and add photos later!]

I start by acknowledging my situation and preferences are potentially very different from the next mommy.  We are frugal and in a fairly small house, living on one income.  We had a son who was colicky for 3 months, never really enjoyed tummy time until he was ready to start inching around, and is just his own baby — every baby is so different in many ways!

We had plenty of preconceived notions, fears, and exciting wonderful things we looked forward to.  We had some definite and some pseudo opinions; many of those have changed drastically since we had our baby!

I’m going to include here some of my favorite things from our experience.  I hope that it might help someone out there.  I had several great moms send me their short list and I found it helpful.  I haven’t really included toys. That’s a whole other post! (more…)

 

beautiful lyrics related to children October 1, 2009

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I began to write this post in the early days with Josiah when we were dealing with hours of crying and spending much time soothing him to sleep.  I never finished, so here it is. These were two songs I found precious and dear to me as I connected with my child.  I definitely found myself a weepy sentimental parent all of a sudden…

“In my arms” by plumb

Your baby blues
So full of wonder
Your curley cues
Your contageous smile
And as i watch
You start to grow up
All I can do is hold you tight

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I know why people ask “So when are you going to have kids?” September 30, 2009

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We are family.

We are family.

It generally starts around high school.  “Where are you going to go to college?”  Then “Are you seeing anyone?”  That question proceeds to “When are you going to get married (already!)?” If you marry, then you are always asked, “So when are you going to have kids?”

Most of us have been there. Most of us have squirmed, and thought, WHY does everyone have to ask me that? Why can’t I just focus on where I am? Why do I always have to be taking the next big step?  Why are they in such a rush?

Well, when I went to college, I began to understand the desire to ask the next class that dreaded question.  When I got married, I began to understand why people are always asking about when you’re going to get married.  And, oh, having a child, I now understand why people ask that question!

Anyway, there are probably plenty of reasons.  Some may be less noble as these.  I thought this might help the collection of people out there sans kids understand why people like me may ask you this question: (more…)

 

More on Cloth Diapers September 20, 2009

Filed under: Uncategorized — hokiecaryn @ 2:36 pm

As a follow up to my previous posts (cloth diapering #1, #2) I wanted to add that my last batch of cloth diapers that I made so far are my favorite [photos to come].  I improvised my pattern/design with two major changes. I’m including information about that and then some other general info and tips from my experience.  The opinions expressed here are my own unless otherwise stated, and everyone has their own opinion on everything baby related, so I am in no way the final expert on this stufff. ha!! :)

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I spy… September 5, 2009

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Coming and Going: Dolphin & Pelican

This week was the first time we recognized Josiah really seeing wildlife as dozens of birds flew all around us out on the beach.  We’ve had the wonderful blessing of getting to stay extra days after a staff retreat to enjoy the beach here. It is a gorgeous gulf-coast beach in Florida and we’re really enjoying the time.

The other night, we walked out a pier to a restaurant at the end, and the fishermen were out, and so were the fisher-birds! The pelicans and gulls and herons were all over, and Josiah was beginning to see them and take them in.  When we were out at the beach, he saw the birds there, too, and really watched them fly by and such. Of course his vision of them is still somewhat limited by their movements and distance, but its’ so neat to see him SEE kind of a new “level” of things; a new development.

We got to see dolphins, too, but he didn’t get that yet!

 

Boys will be Boys September 4, 2009

Filed under: Parenthood, around the house — hokiecaryn @ 10:55 am

And babies will be babies. I know some of the things Josiah is up to these days are typical of a lot of babies, especially with the strong-willed, get-going, active personality like I believe he has.  I also know I’m “in for it” with the precocious boy thing.  As I’ve been reading “Bringing Up Boys” by Dr. James Dobson, it has been a very good reminder of how boys are different, and what might be in store for us. Not that they won’t all have different personalities and interests, but knowing his father, I’m guessing Josiah is going to be an in the mud kind of kid.

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I got a great deal on a Tonka dump truck and a kid rug with a construction theme on it at a consignment sale. (Of course, dually appropriate because of my previous experience and interest in civil engineering and construction).  Anyway, I figured the rug would be good at this point to put down in the Living Room or his room so he can crawl on something other than the laminate floors.  (well, learn to crawl anyway).

But a story about the kid’s rug.  I noticed it seemed a little dingy, but I thought some cleaning might spruce it up, and that basically it was going to get dirty anyway, so why not?  I took it into the bathroom and hosed it off, scrubbed with green cleaner, and then kept hosing it with the shower faucet.

Tons of dirt and grime ran out of the carpet and down the drain. As I sat there for a few minutes just watching this grime wash down the drain.  I had a feeling that this image might well represent part of the next dozen years of my life…watching the tons of dirt and grime wash down the drain.  I don’t know…that was just the experience I had as I sat there; and I wasn’t down about it or anything, just preparing myself with a deep breath for what may be to come raising a little guy.

The carpet did come out much brighter and cleaner! it was very exciting.

The next story came while I was taking photos of some of my sewing projects.

I’ll let these pictures tell the story…

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Yes, that’s him looking cute, spitting up and then playing with it. I set the camera down before he started tasting it. Yummy. Fun times…fun times.  I love the little rugrat, though.

 

My Adventures in Cloth Diapering, Part 2 August 29, 2009

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100_7094This is a follow up post to Part 1.

Now we are entering a new phase. At six months and almost 18 lbs, Josiah has pretty much grown out (I think more length than anything) the Fuzzi Bunz diapers I had.  It is also MUCH harder to do the prefolds on him as we had been doing because he has started to want to be up on all fours on the changing table, and I was some days having to change him upside down.  That phase has passed for the most part (for now) and he’s letting me put him on his back again.  But two major changes now have made me want to take the next step in diapering. (more…)

 

My Adventures in Cloth Diapering, Part 1 August 29, 2009

Filed under: around the house, family — hokiecaryn @ 4:39 pm

cloth_diaper_webI did a very controversial thing — I chose to cloth diaper! Gasp.  I know, many people think I’m crazy.  And maybe I just am!  Ha.  It’s amazing because the first three months with an extremely colicky child, you’d think I was insane to add more difficulty to being a diapering mom.  But, I have actually found the system to work for us, and keep experimenting along the way trying new things. I’ve had some room in my life to research and refine this for our family. Who knows what it will be like for any future children. But Josiah is a cloth-diapered child most of the time.

My journey began with a few people suggesting it and I thought they were crazy, and after several conversations like this on topics of childbirth and family, I realize we’re all pseudo crazy to take on this amazingly wonderful journey of parenthood. So why not give it a go?!  Hey, I mean I did deliver Josiah in a bathtub! (more…)

 

Sewing Projects August 25, 2009

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I’ve taken some time to do some homemaker projects with the sewing machine my mom gave me.  I haven’t sewn much in a long time.  I had a couple machines people gave me and none of them seemed to work quite right, or it could very well have been user error!! My mom gave me one that’s pretty easy to use; the newer models seem to have fewer knobs, for instance, that have to do with tension settings which I think was where my problem was.  Anyway, I managed to do a few small projects.

Among them, I figured the first might be to make a cloth cover for my sewing machine since if I was going to do projects, it might get left out in the living room. I though this would help it hide away and look fashionable if someone did happen to notice it!  I did some searching online.  You can pretty much make one by measuring the dimensions of your machine. I found this on a blog called Spool Sewing, and I made some embellishment changes from the ones they did, using some cording; I added this part just to make it even more difficult. Ha! Anyway I had had this fabric for ages, and glad to finally use it somewhere it will be seen!

KimonoThen I ventured on to some smaller projects that I may post about in a different post.  Then I tried out kid’s clothing!   (more…)

 

Character in Old Movies August 18, 2009

Filed under: books, music, media, marriage — hokiecaryn @ 10:45 pm

There were some other interesting points I drew out from watching Philadelphia Story and never got back to posting them. My original post was on Agesim in Hollywood.  My second article here is about character of the characters.

One thing I notice in a lot of recent romantic comedies is the very confusing message about men and women. I think often there is this perfect, hot guy who has some redeeming qualities, but is somewhat of a buffoon.  He does one or two gloriously romantic gestures and completely wins the girl despite his jerk-moves in other ways.  I guess it gives grace, but it’s just weird in a world that sets up this “strong woman” who doesn’t need a man, and then she ends up falling for a stereotypical jerk.  Not all movies, but many very popular ones are this way.  Often neither male or female characters prove out lasting change; maybe just temporal change.  [Side Note: I was very surprised by 50 First Dates though; very different, and if it wasn't full of potty humor and unnecessary sex references, it would make a beautifully moving story!]

In the Philadelphia Story, heiress Tracy Lord (Katharine Hepburn) throws out her husband C.K. Dexter Haven (Cary Grant) shortly after their marriage. Two years later, Tracy is about to marry respectable George Kittredge. Dexter arrives at the Lord’s mansion the day before the wedding with writer Mike Connor and photographer Liz Imbrie.

Despite working for “Spy” magazine (a tabloid of the rich and famous), Dexter has become changed, having sobered up from his playboy and alcohol addiction, part of his losing Tracy.   He returns to Tracy’s life trying to protect her from marrying this man who is not a good match for her, and from having her family slandered in the papers.  Dexter is cautious and playful in winning Tracy back.  But he’s given her space to make that decision on her own; his main goals are to protect her, being truly the husband he should be to her.

Tracy is on a journey of discovery.  Mike (James Stewart) picks up on traits about her beyond her goddess-posture, and she realizes she likes being admired for her heart.   Secondary character, Liz obviously loves Mike and is patiently waiting for him to “get it” and be mature enough and ready for marriage.  Liz watches sadly as Mike falls for the leading lady, Tracy, but wants happiness for him and so refrains from interfering.  While a somewhat typical secondary character, purposefully underplayed, Liz has a winning nature through wit and charm; the stark contrast to Hepburn’s commanding presence.

In the end, Tracy gives preference to Liz, honoring the love that Liz has for Mike by not pursuing a relationship with him, and says so publicly.  This floored me. I don’t think a main “leading lady” type would defer to a secondary, meeker woman in a movie today.  Tracy subtly honors their relationship by pointing out to Mike Liz’s true feelings.

Spoiler warning!! Tracy ends up marrying her first husband, CK Dexter.  These two are transformed — Dexter having shed his old ways and proven his character, and Tracy discovering the heart beneath her holier-than-thou exterior.  What I love about this is that it seemed a real surprise to me being used to modern movies.  Also, this display instills the true definition of marriage and the commitment beyond paperwork.  CK remains faithful to Tracy, and shows steadfastness in changing and coming back to win her heart again; truly becoming the husband he promised to be to her in their initial engagement.

While not a perfect parallel, I think it is i brilliantly written and very poetic.

 

5 month old August 12, 2009

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5 month birthday in exersaucer

It just astounds me how far Josiah has come in learning and development at the milestones we’ve passed already. I feel like he is a completely different child from the one who wriggled and barely opened his eyes the first couple weeks of life (and cried a LOT).  He’s settled down so much in some ways — more content and happy, playful and exuberant.  Now he’s more active in many other ways than just crying; which is a relief. We were in North Carolina for two weeks visiting family, and before I left to when we came back, I noticed substantial change.  But I really noticed it when we came back and I tried to do things the way I had before we left; and found they now do not work.  For example, I have a bumbo chair and don’t tell anyone, but I had it up on the counter in teh kitchen so he could watch me cook or make lunch or whatever I might be doing.  He’d just grab his toy that I’d give him and suck on it for the most part, and maybe drop it and flail his arms around a little.

Staring down waves.

Contemplating the ocean.

Well, when we came back, his hands are grabbing at EVERYTHING around him, and you all of a sudden realize how close the scissors, the markers, and other non-kid-friendly items are to him, that I didn’t mind before.  If I set him in the bathroom on the counter to watch his reflection, he still loves that, but he’s grabbing for the soap dispenser, the faucet (he loves water and I think he’s getting that the faucet knob controls the flow!), etc.

So it’s just a new challenge.  Changing time has become a beast.  I knew that kids fought the diaper change, but I expected to have a little more time.  Are you stronger than a 5 month old is the game we play.  He wriggles until he’s on his tummy, and then proceeds to try and aim for hurling himself over the side.   I have learned to change him upside down.  That’s a riot.

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Brothers and Sisters July 27, 2009

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[A journal entry from Oct 7, 2007. I ran across it and it was a good reminder for me; thought I'd share it.]

As I read 1 John (in the Bible) this week, I was impacted by John’s distinction of Christians being known for their love, especially towards their brothers and sisters. I realized that in the past, I have read that as “love the brothers and sisters in your church.” Sometimes that can be hard enough!

But I was challenged how my attitude and cynicism can build up towards other believers, most of whom I have not even met. For example, I have heard stories of people being deeply wounded by pastors or church leaders to the point of turning away from God.  One example I was recently challenged through was in reading the journey of Sheila Walsh through serious depression, and taking steps to pursue healing.  On this journey, as shared  through her book Honestly, she conveys things that were said to her when she was at the end of herself in emotional mess, and finally reached out for help. When reading the words of some of her colleagues and friends who said stupid and unloving things (mostly out of ignorance and fear of emotions), my reaction could be “those idiots!” or “I want to punch them.”  The things they said cut deeply. But the reality is that they are believers, (or at least professed). And the world watches how we treat them.

Obviously, for all recorded history, people have done horrible things in the name of Christ. Healthy distance from those who are damaging souls and some distinctions are necessary.

Yet looking at what John writes, and knowing the “world” does lump Christians together; even if we bristle at being combined with some of our relatives.

John (who’s closest ministry partners were slaughtered, mind you) says that those who have hate towards his brother are living in darkness.

I know I have traveled down this path of animosity, bitterness, and speaking ill of my brothers and sisters in Christ. How then do we pursue life and the integrity and unity of the Church?  For starters, I have watched the example of leaders I respect, calling out non-Christ-like behavior, without completely destroying the person they are referring to. Sheila Walsh went back to some people who hurt her and had very restoring, healing conversations.  While some conversations did not pan out, many of her colleagues and friends confessed their inadequacy to respond well, and their expression of sorrow for hurting her. Sheila found healing as she released her own anger toward them that could have destroyed her.

What a beautiful thing Christ can do in his redemptive way.

May we be open to His workings and not our own judgments and standards.

 

The Davis Veggie Garden July 10, 2009

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So I know there’s a lot of hype about sustainability, going green, and organic food. We’re not ones to jump on bandwagons, and I think a lot of the “popular” routes of living green and organic and all that are kind of false.  Like electric cars that require mining of rare earth elements, or “organic” produce that’s grown and shipped from overseas.  These oxymorons of sorts are not true green and sustainable living.  So anyway, without just jumping on the wagon because it’s hip, Scott and I have decided we’d like to do some things to be more self-sufficient.  Local is good, sustainability is good, and growing things is good for us in many many ways.

We decided we’d like our children to know where our food comes from.  While I’m not quite ready to slaughter my own meat, yet, I thought growing some tomatoes, beans and cucumbers could be a good start!!

We started putting Josiah to bed earlier and found ourselves having time together again and wanting to spend it well.  When Scott’s not studying his Greek, we’re often kind of wasted from the day and not sure what to do.  Doing the garden in the evenings and on weekend mornings has been a really enjoyable way to share something together, besides Josiah.   We’re growing a vegetable garden from seeds, trying to get some seedlings going

Growing things in Florida is pretty hit or miss, but so far, so good.  They are actually already much larger than these photos!

We set up a little mini-irrigation system for our seedlings in containers through the intense heat of the mid-summer.  We’re hoping to sustain the little guys until late summer, so we can plant and get a harvest this fall/winter.  The growing season in Florida is very flip-flop from most places in the country, so that’s been something to learn!

We look forward to seeing these guys when we get back. I’m half worried that the cucumbers will have born fruit the size of our house at the rate they’re growing.  But mostly I hope they’ll be healthy little plants that we can plant in our new boxes when we come back and see some harvest later.  We’ll have lots of different things so we can see what does well and what we like.  We’re planning to build “square foot garden” raised beds.  Its’ kind of a new trend, but it’s really smart and I think will work well for our sandy soil to help give them some decent stuff to grow in.  Most square foot garden beds recommend using wood; since we’re in Florida and even pressure treated wood disintegrates after a year, we’ve come up with a creative idea to try to form the beds. If it works, we’ll talk about it here!

We’ll see and we’ll keep you posted!

 

Filling the hole July 9, 2009

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Besides all the talking that Josiah is doing these days, he’s definitely for the past few weeks wanted everything in his mouth.  For many years, I’ve heard people glean life lessons often from small things that their children do.  The overwhelming experience we’ve had while we’ve enjoyed the presence of Josiah in our life is the overwhelming love we have for him, and just holding and squeezing him and knowing our Father in Heaven does the same for us.  I have learned many other things, but my latest is God just revealing a picture to me.

As Josiah stuffs his thumb, his elephant’s ear, a toy ring, the burp cloth, our finger if it’s passing by his face — or any

Favorite Blue Elephant

Favorite Blue Elephant

combination of the above into his little mouth, his whole body sometimes wriggles and writhes trying to smash it in more it seems.  It’s like he can’t quite fill his mouth, and get everything he wants in there.  Sometimes he’s content with just his thumb and the burp cloth wrapped around his thumb.  Or some other solitary object.  But it’s just funny those times that he wriggles and stuffs and tries different combinations. [by the way, the elephant is a favorite toy]

It reminds me of me. Of us.  Trying to almost violently stuff things into our hearts to (1) make us feel better and less lonely, (2) fill our need for “stuff”, or (3) help us feel satisfied and self-sufficient.  While she’s not the first to have penned these words, Plumb’s singer/songwriter’s lyrics come to mind…

There’s a God-shaped hole in all of us
And the restless soul is searching
There’s a God-shaped hole in all of us
And it’s a void only he can fill – Plumb, “God-Shaped Hole”

That stuffing that Josiah does, the wriggling and restless-ness to meet his need….that’s a picture of me.  It’s cute for a baby, not as cute for me.  It kind of is like one of those moments of remembering the campaign advert that was out around the time I was in high school by the anti-smoking council or whomever.  It showed a girl tarred and gross all over her flesh.  It said something like “if what happened on the inside showed itself on the outside, would you want to smoke?”  it was pretty effctive for me, I’ll tell you what.  But I feel like sometimes with a baby in his innocence, he reveals his true flesh-nature in just being himself.  It’s fine, he’s learning, and that’s what babies do.  But his acts are just a version of how we are, we just manage to package it better most of the time!

Anyway, I want to think on what I’m trying to stuff into my God-shaped hole, and where I need to just let go and ask God to fill me more.  How can He get in when we’re cramming a bunch of drool-soaked toys in there?!

 

Can I buy a vowel? July 9, 2009

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100_6733So I guess as babies, we start off developmentally with a LOT of vowels, and just start to add consonants slowly to the front of them.  Our little guy is so content to ahhhh ohhhhh uhhhhh all day long.  It’s kind of fascinating to watch language develop in a child.  I’ve seen pieces here and there, but it’s so interesting to watch it day to day.   Some days he’s very vocal, and some days he’s much more quiet.  I haven’t found the rhythm to that mystery.  A couple of weeks ago when he started really becoming more vocal, he did it for a while and then took a break from vowels and just blew raspberries all day.  He’d wake up, and it was the first thing we’d hear from his room.  It was delightful.

Then, at some point, he just kind of switched back to vowels.  And now it’s kind of like a singer practicing because he does this whole range of volumes with the sounds he can make.   The other day, we were visiting his friend Jake, who’s a few weeks older.  He and Jake weren’t quite talking to one another, but at about the same language ability.  Each would rattle off some sounds, and some shrieks of glee.  When Josiah made a really loud one, Jake would kind of look astonished.  But later he would do the same and kind of startle Josiah. It was very amusing.

Josiah seems to like when you talk at the same time as he’s cooing and making his sounds.  He hasn’t figured out the “taking turns” of conversation yet, but really likes us to talk to him, and repeat his sounds.  It makes his day.  It’s so thrilling to hear his shrieks of glee, even if they are a bit piercing.

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My Shadow June 26, 2009

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This morning Josiah and I had a most glorious little stroll through the neighborhood. It has been so ghastly outside in recent weeks and it’s been hard having a baby who loves to be outside and not wanting to go. But this morning, we took a nice stroll. There was a bit of a cool breeze, the puffy white clouds were moving quickly by in the beautiful Florida sky. I guess it’s only about 80. Now, before Florida, hearing it’d be 80 degrees at 8 in the morning would have turned me off. But after what the last couple of weeks have been like, that was refreshingly cool! So we enjoyed it.

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Josiah has found his shadow. I think he’s seen shadows for a long time…even when he was a little lump that would just lay there in my lap while we were outside in the mornings to keep him from crying. I think he saw our shadow against the wall. Anyway, this morning, the whole world was going on around him, and he focused behind us on his shadow the whole time (well, in front of us on the first leg because of where the sun was!).

I remembered a poem from Robert Lewis Stevenson’s “Child’s Garden of Verses” from growing up. So I thought I’d share 2 verses in honor of Josiah liking to watch his shadow.

The child in the poem is somewhat annoyed by the shadow’s “stickiness”, but I know a child would say this and secretly be thankful for a friend who sticks so close. In some ways, Josiah has become our little shadow; mostly mine during the days. But he is so fascinated with Scott now and watching everything he does. I know he’ll be trying to imitate and emulate him as soon as is possible. Right now he’s just soaking it in.

Like our little shadow.

I have a little shadow that goes in and out with me,
And what can be the use of him is more than I can see.
He is very, very like me from the heels up to the head;
And I see him jump before me, when I jump into my bed.

The funniest thing about him is the way he likes to grow–
Not at all like proper children, which is always very slow;
For he sometimes shoots up taller like an india-rubber ball,
And he sometimes goes so little that there’s none of him at all…

- My Shadow By Robert Louis Stevenson

See the full poem here, or of course, in the collection “Child’s Garden of Verses

 

Ageism in Hollywood June 23, 2009

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Philadelphia dilema...which man? imdb

Scott and I really enjoy watching old classic movies.  Sometimes they’re hard to get into, but we have found a lot of really great stories among them.  For example, we just finished The Philadelphia Story with Katherine Hepburn, James Stewart and Cary Grant; it is probably one of our favorites.

The wit of the character’s dialog, the creativity of the plot unfolding, maybe the complexity of a mystery, and the dynamic interaction between the characters carry the film more than a lot of movies today.  Movies today are much more complex in set, filming, number of characters, scenery, and of course special effects, etc.  But many are not written as well as some of these somewhat simply filmed, small cast movies.  It’s really amazing.  I think the actors had to be much better, too, to pull off the movie, because their interaction and dialog carries the film more than flashy things of today’s movies.

Also, I love that many of the movies were either literary pieces and or stage productions before they went to film.  I believe that this brings much more depth and profundity to the dialog and story of these movies.  It seems like when something is written for the screen, it may fall more flat, one-dimensional.

These aren’t surprises to many film buffs and classic-lovers.  And I won’t go on and on about comparing to modern film.  There are of course many modern films that are wonderfully orchestrated.  I just feel like my brain is challenged watching older movies; like I increase my IQ some, and enjoy subtle, smart humor that requires at times intelligence to even be able to laugh at.

But one thing that really stood out to me in the past couple of movies we watched was how old movies (classic, black and white films) seem to have no issue with casting old people, how older people are a normal integral part of their portrayal of society.  Not to mention many of the people in these films look very NORMAL; not completely plasticy and made up beyond recognition.

I can think of a handful of films that include men and women in their 60s plus that are integrated into the story.  But it’s rarely done now in the same subtle way that it is done in the classic movies.  Also, if they are older, they don’t have to look gorgeous and like they’re 20 years younger than they are.  It’s fine for them to just look like people
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