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Spring In The Air March 27, 2011

Filed under: around the house — hokiecaryn @ 8:58 pm

Cardinal in our cherry tree.

Lo! The winter is past; the rains are over and gone.

Flowers appear on the earth; the season of singing has come, the cooing of doves is heard in our land.

The fig tree forms its early fruit; the blossoming vines spread their fragrance.

Arise, come, my darling;
my beautiful one, come with me.

- Song of Solomon 2:11-13

Okay, first of all, I know that this passage of scripture is not just about the changing seasons of weather outside, but I do find it quite fitting experiencing our first true winter-to-spring transition in many years now that we are back “in the north.”  The rain isn’t quite gone yet, but spring is on the way.  Despite a wintry mix this weekend, and plummeting temperatures, in general we have been truly beckoned by the call of Spring outside our doors in the last couple of weeks.  It feels good for our souls to have this physical transition from winter to spring happen all around us, and we look forward with hope and anticipation of what’s to come.

Today had its own interest and beauty, although the damp cold temperatures were unwelcome. I snapped a few photos of the trees and plants in our yard that were beginning to bloom due to the warm temperatures and the spring showers.  The grass is greening up and the blossoms are bursting forth.  The birds are swarming our bird feeder and we’re noticing more varieties than we have seen this winter.  Our son is really enjoying all the activity, too, but he and I can hardly keep the feeder filled!

This is our first spring in the new house, and we are thankful for a pretty well landscaped yard, but know not what might come up where!  So the excitement for seeing what may bloom forth from each corner of the yard is an exciting adventure in itself.  We’ve done massive pruning to several shrubs and trees, hoping to encourage even more wonderful fruits and flowers this year.

Another Winter Passing

In many ways, I am noting that this Spring seems to be bringing a true passing of a different kind of winter in my life, and my family’s.  A year and a few months past my mother’s passing, and a year after beginning intensive counseling to recover from the difficulties and struggles of my past few years, I am feeling at a very different place (physically, spiritually, and emotionally).

In Florida, the skies were so big and open, you could see storms coming at their fast pace towards you.  Often you could not predict if they’d come directly over you or pass to the side, but you could watch it happen right before your eyes all the same. We watched the fronts of hurricanes come upon us, as the winds began to gust more strongly, and the circular wall of clouds that wrapped across the sky came with great foreboding.  But of course, many days in summer, great storms of dark ominous clouds, with their frightful fingers sticking down and their green cast, also came and swept up at a quick pace.

While I became somewhat used to these occurrences, and gradually less panicked at first sight of them, my heart always reacted, wondering what the seemingly “end times” caliber storm might bring.  Often the worst would pass just aside from you, and you could sit and watch the storm rage down on the next county over (or next neighborhood).  Anyway, with that imagery so engraved in my brain, the figurative storms that have passed over me in the recent past are palpable for me, and I can see them now in the distance behind me.  I was not left untouched by them, although I know that many of the fragments and scattered debris have been picked up, and many wounds have begun to heal. I have cleared them and come to the bright sky on the other side.  Not to say there are no potential storms ahead. But I am thankful at least for these to have past. Lo, the winter has past, and the spring beckons me forward into new life.

Literal New Life Ahead

Caryn entering the third trimester

We’re counting down to June for other reasons aside from weather since that is the due date for our baby girl. Entering the third trimester, I am starting to get more excited about the coming of this little gal. It has been much harder to think about it than the first since I have a busy time keeping up with our everyday life and our toddler!  It’s such an active and exciting stage for him, it hardly leaves me time for dreaming about little baby girl.  I think it’s now really sinking in about her being a girl and I’m starting to be really excited for that aspect of our new adventure.

We are starting to receive clothes here and there from folks handing them down, and for that I am excited and thankful. It’s quite a mysterious new world of girls baby clothes: leggings, dresses, skirts, and frills.  There sure is a LOT of pink, but I’m glad to bring it on.  I’m glad that a sort of eclectic style in girls clothes seem to be popular; I hope that will continue and give me some grace for learning how all these little mini-outfits work together!  Little girls’ world, here we come!

 

We have a daughter January 14, 2011

Filed under: family,Parenthood,pregnancy — Scott @ 11:39 pm

We hope to meet her around the middle of June!

 

Milestones December 14, 2010

Filed under: Uncategorized — hokiecaryn @ 8:09 pm

I am putting together Christmas cards and thought I’d share a bit here of looking back on the year of milestones that Josiah has passed.  In a brief summary, I recognized from reviewing our photo history of 2010, that we started the year celebrating Josiah’s ability to stack and his enthusiasm for walk behind a push toy.  He loved riding in his wagon and being outside.  After his first birthday, he took off walking down the hall. Now he’s running, jumping, climbing and rolling.  His desire to do things often outweighs his ability, but that continues to push him to learn and grow.

His vocabulary has increased dramatically; it’s amazing to have him express specific thoughts, wishes and feelings.

Of his growing vocabulary, his most frequent words seem to be: crash, wet, stuck, train, fall, uh-oh, oopsie, hot, tractor, truck, dump, bob (as in the builder), wet, ‘side (for outside), no, shoe (=going out) and ah-ha.  He sweetly says “thank you” more frequently, and he has also been praying at the table with us and ending with “a men.”  Just recently we’ve also come across him singing little sweet songs.  One common one is just a tune with “ma ma” and “daddy”.  But it’s sweet to hear his creativity translating into his language and music development.

He has taken to caring for some of his stuffed animals: feeding them, and introducing them to his favorite things.  He tried the same with my dad’s cat over Thanksgiving. It’s sweet to imagine how he will take part with our new child.

At some point over the year, the trucks and construction equipment switch was flipped; and more recently his obsession with trains flipped into high gear!

Josiah has consistently tried to be a big helper. The more physically able he is, the more he tries to do.  When we were preparing to move this past Spring, we often turned around to find him trying to lift heavy boxes and sometimes “packing” by putting stuff in boxes for us.  We still have him rush up to Scott when he’s carrying things; he will try to put at least a hand on whatever is being carried to offer his “help.”

He often tries to help me put dishes away; I’ve basically given him the “task” of taking the silverware and dumping them in the drawer; I just sort later.  He helps some with pulling laundry out of the drier and often tries to carry the basket!  The latest thing he tried to do was very surprising. He’s always been interested in helping sweep, and a couple times I have actually found him grab the dust pan and hand broom trying to sweep up things here and there un-requested. it’s quite amazing what they come up with on their own!

We look forward to more learning and growing ahead. It goes so quickly, sometimes it’s nice to reflect back and try to remember what we already miss!

 

Trains & Early Christmas November 28, 2010

Filed under: family,update — hokiecaryn @ 1:17 pm

We had an early Christmas over Thanksgiving with the Broadway family in Wilmington, NC. Josiah was eating up the attention from his grandaddy, Aunt Jenn and Uncle Chris.  He also quite enjoys the cat, although the cat still doesn’t quite reciprocate his affections.

We enjoyed the relief from the very cold temperatures. It was kind of fun to get to use some of the summery clothes I had in store for Josiah from our hand me downs. But he still liked wearing his hat!

Though Josiah was pretty active last Christmas, he had a whole new involvement with it this year. It was fun to have him be more aware and involved. Here he’s showing how serious he was about his gifts. He helped deliver them to each family member until he got too involved in playing with his new toys!

The kitchen pans were a hit for him. He’s been very into mimicking me in the kitchen again so I thought some pots and pans would be fun for him to feel like he was really cooking; and so I could get my pots and pans back!

The other hit for Josiah was taking him to a Christmas train exhibit in town. They had small model trains and larger ones all set up in a big room. He was in awe and so super excited.  Some switch has been turned on for him just recently and he is officially obsessed with trains.

It’s been fun to see him really get in to it, and it is fun to have things like this to take him to!

 

Schooling Dilemma, part 2 October 15, 2010

Filed under: books, music, media,culture,Education,faith,family — hokiecaryn @ 10:57 pm

We have been deeply pondering the topic of raising and educating our children for a number of years. One regular topic of conversation has been the idea of homeschooling our children, at least through their elementary school years. We’ve engaged in this conversation with certain friends, but in general it’s felt… unsafe… to discuss. Opinions and feelings vary widely. But, with trembling, we feel like we should start talking more openly about what we are learning — to gain insights from our friends, and to share the insights we have gained. Though what we write below may sound dogmatic, understand that it is written in a spirit of humility and friendship.  Ultimately, this decision comes down to each family’s personal conviction. — Scott & Caryn

We’ve often had discussions with friends about another question in the dilemma – is it right to abandon the government (public) schools? If the “good” people leave, will they just degrade more?  Is it our place to stay involved?  These are also hard questions to answer and I hear many people questioning this when they look at alternatives to public school.

In Schooling Dilemma, Part 1, we took a quick look at the question of homeschooling. Now let’s dig in a bit deeper together…

First, we consider the conversations with several neighbors and friends in different parts of the country questioning whether their children are even learning in school.  Even teacher friends attest that students acquire knowledge for standardized testing and waste a large chunk of their day in travel to school, administrative tasks (attendance, class changes) and dealing with misbehaving classmates.  Literacy rates are falling and schools are failing. This is not to knock teachers by the way. They are not always the problem.

It seems an interesting option to teach and train at home, have children more effectively learn and efficiently use their time; and then use the extra time to engage together in the community.  Choosing alternative school options does not withdraw students or parents from society at large.  We can engage in extracurricular activities which do overlap with the government school realm (or local city/county leagues), at public venues such as libraries and rec centers, at playgrounds and Chick-fil-a.  A book Caryn read recently even suggested that as tax paying citizens, you are able to enroll your children in certain classes/activities with the public school even if they are officially home schooled. And then of course later there are opportunities with community colleges, etc. We have many interesting options available today.

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Reuniting with old friends

Filed under: adventures,update — hokiecaryn @ 11:27 am

I was thinking about autumn before it was here.  Not to over-romanticize it, but I thought about its arrival as the arrival of an old friend.  But I had a slight hesitation wondering whether I’d love it as much as I remembered.  As with an old friend you haven’t seen in a long time, you remember that you got along well, but many years have passed and you aren’t quite sure how you’ll get along as the “older and wiser” versions of yourselves.

Well, I have reconnected with both autumn and actual old friends and so far all experiences have been pleasant!  We are loving autumn, the beautiful change in color, the crisp fall mornings.  I’m even enjoying the days of temps from the 40s to the high 70s and having to remember to wear layers!

Since we moved back, we have already had the privilege of seeing several old friends.  Several of our friends live here in Blacksburg still, and some have swung back through for a visit.  Ironically, we moved to the land of Disney and everyone said, “Make sure you have room; people will all want to come visit you.”  Aside from a handful of visits including our parents, this was not very true for us.  But we moved back here, and in the first couple of weeks we were getting notice of friends coming through week after week.

Many of the friends we’ve been able to reconnect with, though we’ve been parted by miles and very different experiences, there is much common ground in our lives.  So we’ve been pleasantly surprised at how our “new selves” connect with each other, and we can appreciate our past relationships as well.

This past weekend, we reminisced and newly enjoyed our friends the Thorsons who were in town.  Distanced by several states, and then 1/4 of the globe for the last few years, we’re finally within a few hours drive of each other, and they were visiting Blacksburg for a wedding.  We had a very fun night talking at the good ole’ Macados restaurant here in Blacksburg.  While nothing seemed to have changed in that eclectically decorated restaurant, our conversation throughout the evening (mostly regarding parenting and children) has definitely changed.  But they were moments I will treasure along with memories of our old friendship.

The Thorsons left Sunday morning, and in the mood to embrace autumn again this past weekend, we forsook the house projects (and church in the traditional sense) and headed out to the Blue Ridge Parkway.  The drive out Route 8 is beautiful itself, and only sparsely populated.  The inviting town of Floyd was here and gone quickly and in about 10 more minutes we were to the familiar entrance to the Parkway.

We pulled off a few seconds later at the first of many scenic overlooks and enjoyed looking out over “The Saddle.”  We took in the view, chatted with other visitors, and Josiah walked along the rock wall several times.  Itching to stretch our legs, we took a path just off to the side up an incline to a small frame structure with a beautiful view.  We were surprised how daring Josiah was climbing around on the incline and the rocks, and he actually walked the way back down the trail, which was steep in places – like most trails it had many challenges of roots, rocks, and slippery spots.  But he was an amazing little trooper.

Then we drove a little further to Chateau Morrisette Winery.  They were having a bit of food and music starting soon, and we just wandered around, did some wine tasting and let Josiah walk all over.  He found a couple other toddlers to play with, running around in the grass, and the enjoyed the store at the winery.  Then it was time to pack up and head home for naps.

It was a lovely day.  I look forward to treasuring interaction with more old friends, including the beautiful places around this area that are part of what kept us in love with Southwest Virginia even after we left.

 

Autumn…ahhhh October 2, 2010

Filed under: family,News — hokiecaryn @ 3:50 pm

Loving Autumn. A long lost friend has returned into our lives, and I love it as much as I remember.  There are some challenges – raking, black walnuts barraging our house and yard, and trying to get us dressed in appropriate layers for the day.   I am still counting my blessings since it is our first in such a long time.  There are surely worse places to experience a real autumn. It has been crisp and beautiful here.  I had to cope, too, with a couple rainy days in a row. That’s new for me. I’m used to sudden changes in weather and return to hot and muggy soon after a shower has bludgeoned us (in Florida).  The clouds hang low, and the moisture sets in.  It may come down in rain, it may hang in the air in a mist.  But there are bright blue skies on other beautiful autumn days.

We are enjoying warm cups of tea, sweaters and comforters back on the bed.  Some day we’ll get our furance working and have central heat.  I turned it on the other day and apparently it wasn’t quite ready to be used, as it was making a horrible hammering noise and sounded like it was going to shake itself to pieces or blow the house up.  I realized later talking with Scott that there is probably a valve that was not opened. Hopefully the serviceman can help us with that this coming week!

Ah the excitement of a new home.

We just spent today out having a very fall festival kind of day at Sinkland Farms.  What a beautiful spot on Route 8 in Riner!  In the valley with rolling hills and higher mountains around this beautiful spot hosts a large pumpkin patch and festivities for the family to enjoy.  Josiah had a lot of fun. Of course being outside is always fun for him, and having some freedom to roam.  Although today he has been somewhat clingy. Scott just got back Wednesday from a 10 day trip and Josiah still doesn’t really trust him out of his sight. But he had a lot of fun.

We got to do a hay ride out to the pumpkin patch to pick our pumpkin and Josiah found a tiny one and held onto it for dear life. He also went “shopping” in the gourds, and just had fun poking around. Here are some of the pics from the day.

 

 
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