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Schooling Dilemma, part 2 October 15, 2010

Filed under: books, music, media,culture,Education,faith,family — hokiecaryn @ 10:57 pm

We have been deeply pondering the topic of raising and educating our children for a number of years. One regular topic of conversation has been the idea of homeschooling our children, at least through their elementary school years. We’ve engaged in this conversation with certain friends, but in general it’s felt… unsafe… to discuss. Opinions and feelings vary widely. But, with trembling, we feel like we should start talking more openly about what we are learning — to gain insights from our friends, and to share the insights we have gained. Though what we write below may sound dogmatic, understand that it is written in a spirit of humility and friendship.  Ultimately, this decision comes down to each family’s personal conviction. — Scott & Caryn

We’ve often had discussions with friends about another question in the dilemma – is it right to abandon the government (public) schools? If the “good” people leave, will they just degrade more?  Is it our place to stay involved?  These are also hard questions to answer and I hear many people questioning this when they look at alternatives to public school.

In Schooling Dilemma, Part 1, we took a quick look at the question of homeschooling. Now let’s dig in a bit deeper together…

First, we consider the conversations with several neighbors and friends in different parts of the country questioning whether their children are even learning in school.  Even teacher friends attest that students acquire knowledge for standardized testing and waste a large chunk of their day in travel to school, administrative tasks (attendance, class changes) and dealing with misbehaving classmates.  Literacy rates are falling and schools are failing. This is not to knock teachers by the way. They are not always the problem.

It seems an interesting option to teach and train at home, have children more effectively learn and efficiently use their time; and then use the extra time to engage together in the community.  Choosing alternative school options does not withdraw students or parents from society at large.  We can engage in extracurricular activities which do overlap with the government school realm (or local city/county leagues), at public venues such as libraries and rec centers, at playgrounds and Chick-fil-a.  A book Caryn read recently even suggested that as tax paying citizens, you are able to enroll your children in certain classes/activities with the public school even if they are officially home schooled. And then of course later there are opportunities with community colleges, etc. We have many interesting options available today.

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Reuniting with old friends October 15, 2010

Filed under: adventures,update — hokiecaryn @ 11:27 am

I was thinking about autumn before it was here.  Not to over-romanticize it, but I thought about its arrival as the arrival of an old friend.  But I had a slight hesitation wondering whether I’d love it as much as I remembered.  As with an old friend you haven’t seen in a long time, you remember that you got along well, but many years have passed and you aren’t quite sure how you’ll get along as the “older and wiser” versions of yourselves.

Well, I have reconnected with both autumn and actual old friends and so far all experiences have been pleasant!  We are loving autumn, the beautiful change in color, the crisp fall mornings.  I’m even enjoying the days of temps from the 40s to the high 70s and having to remember to wear layers!

Since we moved back, we have already had the privilege of seeing several old friends.  Several of our friends live here in Blacksburg still, and some have swung back through for a visit.  Ironically, we moved to the land of Disney and everyone said, “Make sure you have room; people will all want to come visit you.”  Aside from a handful of visits including our parents, this was not very true for us.  But we moved back here, and in the first couple of weeks we were getting notice of friends coming through week after week.

Many of the friends we’ve been able to reconnect with, though we’ve been parted by miles and very different experiences, there is much common ground in our lives.  So we’ve been pleasantly surprised at how our “new selves” connect with each other, and we can appreciate our past relationships as well.

This past weekend, we reminisced and newly enjoyed our friends the Thorsons who were in town.  Distanced by several states, and then 1/4 of the globe for the last few years, we’re finally within a few hours drive of each other, and they were visiting Blacksburg for a wedding.  We had a very fun night talking at the good ole’ Macados restaurant here in Blacksburg.  While nothing seemed to have changed in that eclectically decorated restaurant, our conversation throughout the evening (mostly regarding parenting and children) has definitely changed.  But they were moments I will treasure along with memories of our old friendship.

The Thorsons left Sunday morning, and in the mood to embrace autumn again this past weekend, we forsook the house projects (and church in the traditional sense) and headed out to the Blue Ridge Parkway.  The drive out Route 8 is beautiful itself, and only sparsely populated.  The inviting town of Floyd was here and gone quickly and in about 10 more minutes we were to the familiar entrance to the Parkway.

We pulled off a few seconds later at the first of many scenic overlooks and enjoyed looking out over “The Saddle.”  We took in the view, chatted with other visitors, and Josiah walked along the rock wall several times.  Itching to stretch our legs, we took a path just off to the side up an incline to a small frame structure with a beautiful view.  We were surprised how daring Josiah was climbing around on the incline and the rocks, and he actually walked the way back down the trail, which was steep in places – like most trails it had many challenges of roots, rocks, and slippery spots.  But he was an amazing little trooper.

Then we drove a little further to Chateau Morrisette Winery.  They were having a bit of food and music starting soon, and we just wandered around, did some wine tasting and let Josiah walk all over.  He found a couple other toddlers to play with, running around in the grass, and the enjoyed the store at the winery.  Then it was time to pack up and head home for naps.

It was a lovely day.  I look forward to treasuring interaction with more old friends, including the beautiful places around this area that are part of what kept us in love with Southwest Virginia even after we left.

 

Autumn…ahhhh October 2, 2010

Filed under: family,News — hokiecaryn @ 3:50 pm

Loving Autumn. A long lost friend has returned into our lives, and I love it as much as I remember.  There are some challenges – raking, black walnuts barraging our house and yard, and trying to get us dressed in appropriate layers for the day.   I am still counting my blessings since it is our first in such a long time.  There are surely worse places to experience a real autumn. It has been crisp and beautiful here.  I had to cope, too, with a couple rainy days in a row. That’s new for me. I’m used to sudden changes in weather and return to hot and muggy soon after a shower has bludgeoned us (in Florida).  The clouds hang low, and the moisture sets in.  It may come down in rain, it may hang in the air in a mist.  But there are bright blue skies on other beautiful autumn days.

We are enjoying warm cups of tea, sweaters and comforters back on the bed.  Some day we’ll get our furance working and have central heat.  I turned it on the other day and apparently it wasn’t quite ready to be used, as it was making a horrible hammering noise and sounded like it was going to shake itself to pieces or blow the house up.  I realized later talking with Scott that there is probably a valve that was not opened. Hopefully the serviceman can help us with that this coming week!

Ah the excitement of a new home.

We just spent today out having a very fall festival kind of day at Sinkland Farms.  What a beautiful spot on Route 8 in Riner!  In the valley with rolling hills and higher mountains around this beautiful spot hosts a large pumpkin patch and festivities for the family to enjoy.  Josiah had a lot of fun. Of course being outside is always fun for him, and having some freedom to roam.  Although today he has been somewhat clingy. Scott just got back Wednesday from a 10 day trip and Josiah still doesn’t really trust him out of his sight. But he had a lot of fun.

We got to do a hay ride out to the pumpkin patch to pick our pumpkin and Josiah found a tiny one and held onto it for dear life. He also went “shopping” in the gourds, and just had fun poking around. Here are some of the pics from the day.

 

 
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