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Can I buy a vowel? July 9, 2009

Filed under: family,Parenthood — hokiecaryn @ 12:58 pm
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100_6733So I guess as babies, we start off developmentally with a LOT of vowels, and just start to add consonants slowly to the front of them.  Our little guy is so content to ahhhh ohhhhh uhhhhh all day long.  It’s kind of fascinating to watch language develop in a child.  I’ve seen pieces here and there, but it’s so interesting to watch it day to day.   Some days he’s very vocal, and some days he’s much more quiet.  I haven’t found the rhythm to that mystery.  A couple of weeks ago when he started really becoming more vocal, he did it for a while and then took a break from vowels and just blew raspberries all day.  He’d wake up, and it was the first thing we’d hear from his room.  It was delightful.

Then, at some point, he just kind of switched back to vowels.  And now it’s kind of like a singer practicing because he does this whole range of volumes with the sounds he can make.   The other day, we were visiting his friend Jake, who’s a few weeks older.  He and Jake weren’t quite talking to one another, but at about the same language ability.  Each would rattle off some sounds, and some shrieks of glee.  When Josiah made a really loud one, Jake would kind of look astonished.  But later he would do the same and kind of startle Josiah. It was very amusing.

Josiah seems to like when you talk at the same time as he’s cooing and making his sounds.  He hasn’t figured out the “taking turns” of conversation yet, but really likes us to talk to him, and repeat his sounds.  It makes his day.  It’s so thrilling to hear his shrieks of glee, even if they are a bit piercing.

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The Pursuit of Happiness, entry 2 October 1, 2008

Filed under: faith — hokiecaryn @ 12:14 pm
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[read The Pursuit of Happiness, entry 1 first]

This article was extremely challenging to me. It’s a ground-shaker during a time of political and economic turmoil and dissatisfaction. A time when I along with several can have fears of losing our liberties if things go the “wrong” direction, I am challenged to remember what we do have, and how we take it for granted. How we have more than anyone could ever imagine, and how losing some of that, we’ll still be better off than most of the world from this perspective. It is easy always to thrust our wealthy American perspective on the world and assume that believers around the world who are persecuted for their faith and existence, are somehow in worse shape than we are because we have new cars, large homes, and 20 kinds of pretzels to choose from at the supermarket.

As my pastor reminded me this week, if we lost our home to financial failure and had to live out of our car, we’d be better off still than 90% or so of the world’s population in material status and health, etc. But what does all this “stuff” lose for us when it comes to spirituality and the priorities of God? Do we rely too much on our government and our possessions to find happiness? Is that the ultimate pursuit? As I continue to reckon with this discussion of happiness and freedom, my devotion booklet again has some interesting insight that was challenging to me and I hope it may find other readers who would consider it.

Below are excerpts from “The Greatest Treasure,” written by RC Sproul, Jr., published in TableTalk magazine, Sept 2008. I hope reprinting this is okay!

Burma, now called Myanmar, is a third-world country in Southeast Asia [and 80% Buddhist]… Last fall the government cut down hundreds of demonstrators who only wanted a touch of reform. It is a long way from the land of the free and home of the brave.

I went there [and] couldn’t help but think of what a difference it would make where these good people to be given some liberty. If only, I wondered, God would bless these people the way He once blessed our country, who knows what wonders they might do?

As…I got to know my hosts [underground christian leaders] and witness their ministry at work in that tragic land, my perspective changed. While freedom is a good thing and a blessing, what they have is far more valuable. These are men and women who are content in God’s grace; whom we would see as the man robbed and left for dead along the road, but who see themselves as the Samaritan. We pity them, but they serve those who are truly in need. These are men and women whose love for each other constructs an alternate nation, a holy nation.

…they are sitting on a surplus of biblical fidelity, mutual love, and true Christ-honoring freedom that we so desperately need on our shores. We don’t need to go over there and rescue them. We need them to come and rescue us.

Life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness are wonderful things, blessings from the hand of God Himself. That said, Jesus tells us that if we would gain our lives, we must first die. Jesus tells us that it is His truth, not this political party or that, not this tax burden or that, which would set us free. Jesus tells us that we ought not to be pursuing happiness, but that instead we should seek first the kingdom of God and His righteousness. Jesus tells us what His priorities are…how we are to live as citizens of the kingdom we are pursuing…

We must first be set free from our appetites, our idolatries, our desires for the things the pagans chase after. But if we pursue Jesus and find Him, just as my friends have in Burma, then even the yoke of political expression is easy, the burden of grinding poverty is light. If we have the pearl of great price, hidden where neither rust nor moth, nor thieves, nor bureaucrats can get at it, then we will no longer pursue happiness. We will have found it.

Jesus did not demand His rights, but gave them up. He now rules over all men, and he calls us to seek first His kingdom and His righteousness.

 

The Pursuit of happiness, entry 1 September 16, 2008

Filed under: faith — hokiecaryn @ 7:06 pm
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I was reading this and found it very profound and worth a read, especially in these times of political turmoil and when we question (or at least I do) the actual values of this country and how we protect them; whether we even know what they are. I’ve taken excerpts; it’s a bit long for web posting. But worth the read. I have been wrestling with this very issue on a more personal scale, and amidst other people in my life as they, too, pursue this thing called happiness. I have felt unrest and disappointment at people seeming swept up with a cultural belief that we deserve this so called happiness, which I think demoralizes us, and really sells us short of the Life we are truly called to.

Ken Myers, someone I respect a lot, has really put together an intellectual study on what I’ve been trying to figure out. Here are some excerpts from “The Pursuit of Happiness” by Ken Myers, host and producer of Mars Hill Audio, published in Sept 08 TableTalk Magazine, a resource of Ligonier Ministries).

First some background to the phrase and philosophy of “the pursuit of happiness”:

Wdeclofindepsigners_smhen Thomas Jefferson selected the phrase “the pursuit of happiness” to describe one of the unalienable rights of man, he was appropriating an idea with a very long history. Since the time of Aristotle and before, happiness was understood as a condition to which all people properly aspire… But [it] was an objective reality, not just a feeling or an emotional state.

In Christian terms, the pursuit of happiness meant recognizing that God had created us to flourish in the context of obedience to Him so that our image-bearing nature might display his glory. The pursuit of happiness was only possible by grace [because of our sin and waywardness], since we cannot by our own strength resist the disordering effects of sin in our lives.

So happiness on the historic account is really a function of sanctification, of growth in holy obedience. That formulation would no doubt come as a shock to most of our contemporaries, perhaps even many Christians, though it would have probably caused a nod of affirmation from most pagan philosophers.

So, at the time our nation was founded, the philosophies were committed to the idea of the individual as sovereign in his moral authority, thus happiness became a pursuit of pleasure, fun and bliss.

This state need have no correlation to the ethical choices one has made; in fact, many Americans seem committed to pursuing this kind of happiness by means of making bad ethical choices: committing adultery, dishonoring their parents, killing their unborn children, abusing their bodies. When happiness becomes merely a mood, the sustaining of which is the highest good, rules tend to get broken.

Not only has happiness been detached from objective human ends and identified uncritically with personal pleasure, the pleasures assumed to be the source of happiness are increasingly the most trivial and fleeting. Submitting to the dictates of fun morality makes the passive consumption of entertainment a more plausible road to happiness than subtler, more demanding pleasures like learning to play the violin, acquiring a love of literature, or cultivating a beautiful garden.

As it happens, the dominant assumption that happiness is a custom-built project with potentially instant payoffs does not seem to have made most people that much happier. [Quoting John P Barrow from "The Pursuit of Emptiness" on his acquaintances living in what he calls the 'Prozac Nation'] “They are not pursuing happiness, they are fleeing suicide.”

Trying to find happiness on our own terms, rather than on the terms of our Creator is an exhausting and disappointing undertaking.

So, are we indeed selling ourselves short?

The recovery of a richer vision for human happiness is a project for which Christians are uniquely suited. We believe we are made to delight in the knowledge and love of God, to find our fulfillment as creatures only as we walk in His ways. Knowing also that we live in a world disordered by sin, we recognize that true blessedness will often, until Christ returns, involve suffering, persecution and sacrifice. Our happiness is not a right, but a gift from one who was a man of sorrows, acquainted with grief.

“If you keep my commandments,” Jesus promised,” you will abide in my love, just as I have kept my Father’s commandments and abide in his love. These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in you, and that your joy may be full” (John 15:10-22).

The pursuit of such single-minded faithfulness, not simple-minded fun, is the true road to human happiness.

Enough Said!

 

 
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